How to Let Go of Self-Judgment When Your Child Has an Addiction

Parents are their own worst critics, and often feel judged when their child is dealing with a substance use problem. As parents, we want to protect our children, help them make the right choices, and keep them safe. However, when we realize our children have a substance use disorder or addiction, we often feel we failed at our job, and the self-judgment takes a heavy toll. It’s time to let this go. Here are a few tips on how to be kinder and more forgiving of yourself when your child is battling an addiction. 

Accept your child’s situation 

The sooner you get real about your child’s substance abuse and accept he or she has a problem, the sooner you can find the strength to deal with it. Worry less about other people’s acceptance and work on your own. 

Remove stigmas

The stigma and shame surrounding addiction are dangerous and can cause further damage to an addict and those who love them. To deal with any stigma coming from strangers, friends, or family, you need to first remove your own—especially if it’s in the beginning stages of your child’s addiction. Educate yourself, do research, and get the facts on their addiction. You’ll feel more empowered and better equipped to handle this situation and deal with any issues that arise.

Let go of the fear of being judged 

Do what you feel is the right step for your child and situation. Don’t let the fear of what others think (especially friends and family) influence your decisions. If you focus all your energy on the fear of being judged, you won’t have any energy left to help your child.

You know your child best 

You are in charge of your child’s health and situation.

People will have all kinds of opinions about what you should or should not be doing in terms of your child’s addiction, but you’re the expert here. Remember this when things get difficult.

Get support

Surround yourself with family and friends who are trustworthy, as well as supportive of you and your decisions. Join support groups with other parents of addicts and learn from their experiences. Ask about the research they’ve done and see what new developments they’ve found to be helpful. There is strength in numbers.

Addiction and Treatment

Dealing with addiction is a long process, and like anything new, you will need to find what works for you and your family. However, with support from others, you can start to let go of any self-judgment. You’ll also be in a stronger position to help your child on the road to sobriety. If your child is suffering from addiction or a substance use disorder, get help now. It could mean the difference between life and death. Do not be afraid to take the first step toward a healthy, new, sober lifestyle. Contact Daylight Recovery Services today at 1-833-2DAYLIGHT to get the help you need. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”  – Theodore Roosevelt