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4 Tips To Confidently Engage In Sober Talk At Social Functions

Sober socializing can be a challenge. In fact, one of the scariest things about getting sober is the fear of getting alienated by your friends and being relegated to a lonely life. Those in recovery often used alcohol or substances to help them relax, connect with others, and lower anxiety. In addition, those who’ve suffered from addiction may have had several negative interpersonal experiences and may opt to not engage with people or they feel trapped by their inability to socialize without alcohol or drugs. But there are ways to combat these fears and successfully engage in the world and in sober talk.

Stay busy

If you are newly sober and need to slowly enter the world of sober “small talk” – find other things to do at social gatherings or parties. This allows you to stay engaged with others, keep conversations to a minimum and the host will be grateful for the help. For example, if you love music – be the DJ, if you love photography – be the photographer at the event or just help in the kitchen with food. Find activities that will keep you busy and focused on your sobriety. 

Be proactive

When you’re at a party or social event and aren’t drinking alcohol or using drugs, the inevitable question about “why you don’t have a drink in your hand” will arise. Rather than staying reactive in these situations, become proactive and prepared to answer questions. If you want to keep your recovery to yourself, then keep your answers short. Start with answers like: “I’m not in the mood to drink tonight” or “I have a busy day tomorrow.” You can also hold a non-alcoholic drink in your hand. This helps to avoid constant inquiries as to whether “you need a drink.” Just remember to take any questions in stride and don’t let them get in the way of your plan to have fun while staying sober.

Keep a positive inner dialogue and congratulate yourself

If you want to learn how to interact with others at social functions while sober, you have to actually spend time being around people without alcohol or drugs. And the more you immerse yourself in the world, the easier it gets. The first social event or party may seem bizarre without alcohol or drugs, in fact, you may feel very anxious. But as you stay sober and see all the benefits of your newly found life, it gets easier. Remember to breathe and to be kind to yourself. And finally, remember that you are now taking huge steps in creating real, honest connections with others and regaining the ability to enjoy life – and that is amazing. 

Exit strategies

Even with the best preparation and intentions, there will be times when the small talk is just too draining. Now is the time to practice how to excuse yourself from these situations. This is the time to politely excuse yourself and use the restroom or make a call to the babysitter. Remember, you can leave when you’ve reached your limit for social interaction. 

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Addiction can feel isolating but you are not alone. Many who get treatment proceed to live healthy and meaningful lives in sobriety. Recovery is a lifelong journey and you deserve to feel happy in a new sober lifestyle. If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction and a mental health disorder, get help today. Do not let the stigma of addiction and mental health keep you from getting help, contact us today at 1-833-2DAYLIGHT.

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